Abdullah bin Amr narrated: The Prophet (saw) said, “A Muslim is the one who avoids harming Muslims with his tongue and hands…” (Bukhari 10)
Scholar Hakeem Akhtar (rah) commented on this hadith:
“To cause inconvenience to any Muslim or to bother any way is prohibited.
Are we not Muslims?
Just as its forbidden to cause pain or harm to any Muslim, its likewise forbidden to cause pain to oneself”.
When a person ruminates on hating oneself due to things and conditions not in their control for example, one’s physical characteristics, ethnicity, family etc. They are harming themselves.
While seeking marriage, they will lack confidence. Their search will be from a place of insecurity.
In marriage, Allah says:
“And one of His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them”.
(30:21)
How will a husband be source of comfort to wife if he is constantly anxious, hates himself? Eventually he will harm his marriage.
How will a wife be source of comfort to husband if she is constantly anxious, hates herself? Eventually she will harm her marriage.
Thus, striving against self loathing so one is empowered to not only benefit themselves but others as well.
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