Excerpt from Ibrahim Dewla’s speeches.
Disagreements gives rise to enmity. Despite being enemies our dealings should be just.
“..and let not hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just; that is nearer to righteousness. And fear Allah” (5:8)
Enmity with anyone should not make one exceed boundaries. In lives of Companions of Prophet (saw) even with enemies they wouldn’t betray or break promises. There should be moderation in both enmity and friendship. Every thing has its limits and rights.
Abu Huraira reported: Prophet (saw) said, “Love whom you love mildly, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate mildly, perhaps he will become your beloved someday.”(Tirmidhi)
This is teaching given to us.
Be moderate in love and friendship. Being friend of yours he knows everything about you and your secrets. It could be that the conditions of enmity arise, he may choose to dishonor you.
Be moderate in enmity and opposition. It shouldn’t be that once someone is an enemy you keep placing that forward when dealing with him. Perhaps today they are your enemy tomorrow they can be your friend. Then it would be regret, in my enmity towards this individual I exceeded limits, caused so & so harm.
Conditions are under control of Allah and they keep altering. For example after the stage of being child, the stage of youth comes then old age. There is always change in conditions so will there be change in our relations.
What should one then do? Be just. We usually hear this in sermon at Friday prayers.
“Allah enjoins to do justice and to adopt good behavior” (16:90)
This is with both Allah’s rights and rights of His servants. The life Prophet (saw) brought for us is ‘mercy’. Because it contains fulfillment of rights, balance, middle way. Then our dealings will build the right environment.
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